love is a mixtape

this i firmly believe.

partly because i'm a sap, but also because there is nothing more wonderful, or more thoughtful than a well done mixtape. conversely, its pretty easy to make a lousy mixtape. just slap a bunch of shit on there, and throw it at a person.
which mix cds all seem to be these days, its just so easy to skip that track you hate but a mixtape, well, you're fucked. might as well throw that shit out or re-record over it.
its also super easy to make a tape that shows off your obscure music tastes (i am so fucking cool, FACE!) or just stuff you like and forget that ____(insert name here) hates that joy division song, but you love it, so you put in on there anyway.
maybe that's why a well made mix tape is so fucking magical, the time it took, the thought process and flow of the songs and why each was hand picked to be used on it.

i've also been reading "love is a mixtape" by rob sheffield and "cassette from my ex" edited by jason bitner, which is a collection of people talking about mixtapes, from, you guessed it, their ex. read "love is a a mixtape," its heartbreaking and funny and wonderful and one of those rare things that reminds you why you love music, and why you even bother with relationships.

so, without further rambling (okay, we both know thats a lie) here are some rough sketches of potential relationship ender tapes (let the tape do it for you!)
one being, the i fucking can't stand you tape (which why make the effort to make a tape? because you hate them that much?) and the i totally love you, but this shit just cant work and it sucks tape (cry on this instead of my shoulder)

the "its not you, well, actually, it is you" tape (aka, why we're breaking up)
limp-fiona apple
lover i don't have to love-bright eyes
unsatisfied-the replacements
fireman-jawbreaker (dreamed we were still going out/woke up to find we were not/its good to be awake)
i only love you slightly less than i used to-the smiths
after school special-a john henry memorial (what you say and what you do are two completely different things...)
what's a girl to do?-bat for lashes
heartless-kayne west
love connection-casiotone for the painfully alone, cover of parenthetical girls
take-wet and reckless
then end with fucking limp bizkits "nookie" the part about doing it all for the nookie on loop if you really really don't like them. or some song that they hate, because why waste more time than you already have on this person?

the "its not you, its everything else" tape (you sort out the order, i'm being lazy)
i am trying to break your heart-wilco
love will tear us apart-the swans, gira version, cover of joy division (can't get down on the jarboe version, lovely as it is)
reckoner-radiohead (although "true love waits" kills too, but this just gets me...)
i need love-ll cool j
the world has turned and left me here-weezer
she's got you-pasty cline
everlong-foo fighters
not too amused-sebadoh
i will never forget you-husker du
something in the way-nirvana, unplugged version (now twice as a sad sounding!)
nothing compares 2 u-sinead o connor
hallelujah-rufus wainwright, cover of leonard cohen
true love will find you in the end-daniel johnston (bittersweet! ahhh! this is where you cry your eyes out)


so then i started to listen to "the children" by yeasayer off odd blood and kinda am giving up on this for a bit. also forgot to eat, so there's that.